The hard part of saying “yes” to change
In my last note, I shared that we were sitting in a season of uncertainty. Since then, a decision has been made — and while that’s brought some clarity, it also surfaced a lot that I didn’t expect.
The process of getting to that decision stirred up fear, doubt, and old patterns. It reminded me how hard it can be to say yes to change, even when it’s something you’ve wanted.
So today, I want to share a bit about what came up for me in that in-between space — and a few things that helped.
The past few weeks, my mind just wouldn’t quit — tossing out every “what if” and worst-case scenario it could come up with. I kept going over the decisions again and again, hoping the perfect answer would appear… but it only left me feeling more stuck.
Eventually, I had to hit pause. I gave myself some space and started asking a few simple questions — not to push myself into a decision, but to understand what was really sitting under the fear.
One thing that helped was remembering that my brain isn’t trying to sabotage me — it’s trying to protect me. That’s what our brains are wired to do: keep us away from anything that feels risky, because risk could mean harm. Knowing that made it easier to meet those thoughts with compassion, instead of letting them run the show.
Here are a few other things that helped — maybe they’ll help you too, if you're navigating something similar:
⭐ Separating myself from my fear.
Just recognizing that fear is not me. It’s a response. It has a reason. And it often comes from a place of care — wanting to protect me. That shift made it easier to hold the fear without letting it take over.
⭐ Asking, “What’s the worst that could happen?”
Not in a dismissive way, but seriously asking. And then thinking through what I’d do if that thing happened. Often, the reality felt much more manageable than what my mind had imagined.
⭐ Imagining what would happen if I didn’t go through with the change.
That part was sobering. When I pictured myself years from now, looking back… there was regret. A kind of heaviness that said, “You had the option. And you stayed safe.” That gave me clarity.
I won’t pretend this process was smooth. There were tears. Sleepless nights. Endless back-and-forth. But slowly, things began to feel clearer.
And through it all, I kept coming back to this:
Some change chooses us. Some change we have to choose.
Either way, growth depends on what we do with it.
It’s not always comfortable — but remembering that helps me meet change with a little more openness.
If you’re going through a transition of your own right now, know that it’s okay to take your time. To feel the fear and still keep going. To sit with uncertainty while you listen in for what feels true.
That’s what I’m doing too.
With care💛,
Khalida
P.S. There’s a big, exciting change ahead for us — something that feels like the start of a new chapter. I’ll share more very soon, but for now, I’m soaking in these last steps before we leap.
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